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Planning a Co-ed or Jack and Jill Shower

In the past, bridal showers were women-only affairs. But these days, it's common for both men and women to attend. Commonly called co-ed showers or Jack and Jill showers, these gatherings are designed to be enjoyable for men and women alike. If this sounds like the type of shower you'd enjoy, then read on. Here are tips to help you throw a fantastic co-ed shower that is a blast for the guys and girls!

The Guest List

For a co-ed shower, you'll want to invite members of the wedding party, relatives of the bride and groom, and close friends. Because you're throwing a co-ed shower, you'll want to specify this on the invitations so the women on the guest list know that it's OK to bring a date.

The Activities

For a co-ed or Jack and Jill shower, much of the time is spent socializing, eating, drinking and opening presents. There usually isn't a lot of customary bridal shower games, as these activities are often designed with strictly women in mind and aren't much fun for the guys. However, if you're determined to have some games and activities, how about some volleyball or a friendly game of cards?

The Menu

Many co-ed showers in the warm months are held outdoors, and for these, grilled fare is a great idea! Serve traditional barbecue choices like hamburgers, hot dogs, corn on the cob and potato salad. If you've got a large budget, chicken, fish and steak are also great choices! Stock coolers with bottled water, soda, and light beer, and if you like, serve a nice champagne as well.

Choosing a Theme

Often bridal showers feature certain themes. For a Jack and Jill shower, there are some themes that make popular choices. Try an electronics theme, where everyone brings DVDs and CDs to the couple. Or, how about a fun bar theme, where each guest brings a different type of wine or liquor? You could go with a travel theme, where guests present the couple with things luggage, travel books, and disposable cameras.

A Jack and Jill or co-ed shower can be a great way to bring friends and family together and celebrate an upcoming wedding. So why not throw tradition to the wind and let the guys in on the fun of a bridal shower? You'll be glad you did!