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Engagement Party

You’re engaged! Congratulations! Now what? The first thing you’ll want to do is to inform parents, siblings, children (if any) and grandparents. Once the jumping up and down and shouts of joy have ended, the wheels in the mind of your loved ones will start moving and more than likely at least one will want to host an engagement party. If you are an heiress to a hotel chain, yes, expect a huge blow out party, otherwise expect the formality and size of the party to fall in line with the types of parties your family usually has. These gatherings are usually informal and low key, usually held at a relative’s house or restaurant a month or so after the engagement.

It is also perfectly normal for the future bride and groom to plan their own, or to make the announcement at another gathering such as holiday party or family get-together (just make sure you’re not stealing someone else’s thunder. Announcing your engagement at a party held in honor of someone else is not advised if you wish to remain liked by honoree.)

Many couples throw their own parties to announce the engagement to everyone at once (including family.) Just remember that an engagement party is a time to celebrate and a time for the two separate families and friends to get to know each other.

Are Engagement Parties Standard?

Engagement parties are not always thrown, but when they are it is at least a year prior to the wedding date. Engaged couples often act as their own hosts, but more often than not, either set of parents host a part and it is not uncommon to have more than one. This is a casual affair for only the closest family and friends and gifts are not expected.