Many brides suffer a hollow, flat feeling when they return to normal life following their wedding day. And who can blame them? During the lead up to the wedding, the bride to be is completely preoccupied with organising the big day; it’s on her mind all the time. And when that big day arrives, it is one of the most exciting and important parts of her life. It is no wonder that on return from her honeymoon and back to normality, it can seem as if there is something missing. However, it doesn’t have to be this way. By taking a few easy steps before and after the wedding, you can rid yourself of this lacklustre feeling. Read on for some effective tips on how you can avoid the post-wedding blues.
If you are in the midst of planning your wedding, you will not know whether you are likely to suffer from post-wedding blues. So, here are a few things you can do before your wedding to prepare yourself for feeling this way.
Before the wedding
Your photos will play a very important part in helping you relive the excitement of your wedding day. It is, therefore, essential to hire a good photographer. A good place to start is to ask for recommendations from your friends and family. You can also search for photographers online. For example, Stephen Casey is a wedding photographer with a website and online portfolio. Make sure you meet with the photographer and look at their work before booking their services. As well as the quality of their work, you should be looking for someone who understands your needs and who you are confident will capture the day perfectly.
- Prepare things to look forward to after the wedding
It will be hard to compete with the magic surrounding your wedding day, but planning a few things you can look forward to post-wedding may help shake that empty feeling. It may help to plan a second honeymoon for you and your partner. Or, if you are limited for time off from work, a couple of weekend breaks or a spa retreat with your friends may do the trick.
- Create a wedding website
A lot of couples are creating a website for their wedding. The website serves as a way to provide information on accommodation, directions, menu and is a simple way for guests to RSVP. Guests can also leave messages for the happy couple before and after the wedding and upload their own snaps from the big day. This a lovely and effective way to preserve the memory of your wedding day. Log on to your website and reminisce whenever you are feeling a little blue.
After the wedding
- Get copies of your wedding photos
Ask your photographer to provide you with plenty of photos that you can frame and put up around your home or add to a photo album. This way you have something at hand whenever you need your wedding “fix”.
- Fill the planning and organizing void
You have spent months and months planning your big day. Once the day passes it can seem strange not to have something to plan for. Some brides find it helpful to turn their attention to planning the next big stage in their lives. Perhaps you plan to move house in the first years of your marriage and so you could begin house hunting and sorting out your finances. Alternatively, maybe you are thinking about starting a family. You might find it helpful to start decorating the room for your new baby. Alternatively, you may have friends or family who are getting married and who you could offer your organization skills and experience to.
- Take up something new
Try to see being married as a new and exciting chapter in your life. As part of this new chapter, why not take up a hobby? Commit yourself wholeheartedly to your new passion, which could be anything that takes your fancy from knitting to karate. Having something new and exciting to focus your mind on will help lift your spirits and leave you feeling refreshed.
- Find other recently married ladies to spend time with
Some people will not understand the post-wedding blues and will tell you to get over yourself. However, this will not help you in the long run, and it is important to seek out people who understand. Meet up with your recently married friends for coffee or dinner and ask them for advice on how to cope post-wedding.
- Open up to your partner
It is important to be honest about the way you are feeling with your other half. If you are keeping it all bottled up inside, your partner may start to worry that there is something going wrong with your relationship. Your partner is there to support you and improve your mood when you are feeling down. You never know, he may be harbouring the same post-wedding feelings as you. As well as opening up to them, you should spend plenty of quality time with your loved one. Going for long walks, meals out or just watching a film together will help improve your mood.
It is important to visualize your life as having many ups, and that your wedding is just one of these high points. You have plenty more highlights to come but seeing your wedding day as the most significant part of your life will not allow you to recognise this. When your wedding day passes, instead of allowing that empty feeling to consume you, concentrate your thoughts on the new chapter of your life that you are about to begin. Think about where you want your life to go next, take up a new hobby, plan exciting trips away and open up about your feelings. You will develop a lot of new skills while organising your wedding and so apply what you have learnt to the next exciting parts of your life.