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Wedding Vows - with Samples

After months of planning, weddings may end up as simple events or grand occasions, but wedding vows, on the other hand, will always be personal. Wedding vows are declarations of love between the bride and the groom. This is also the time when the new husband and wife make their promises to cherish one another in their newfound bond of marriage in the presence of their friends and family.

Over the years, however, wedding vows are viewed upon as a source of headaches. It is much easier to tell someone that you love them in private as compared to when you are in front of an entire group of expectant onlookers. Imagine the pressure of making your wedding vow perfect in front of your in-laws whilst trying not to sound too corny with your peers around. How do you go about writing the perfect wedding vow then? Here are some methods to help you get started:

Traditional versus Contemporary Wedding Vows

Although it is only fitting to make wedding vows as romantic as possible, monotony can speak volumes on how your marriage life will become later on. There are some people who prefer that all ceremonies be formal and thus plummet into the trap of being predictable and dull. These are the people who refer to sickness, poverty and “bad times” as obstacles in marriages. They also refer to death as the determining factor of an ended marriage.

In truth, marriages work on cooperation, patience and understanding. Being a spouse also automatically makes you liable to attend to your partner’s needs, be they medical or otherwise. In this time and age, there is no harm in saying that you will share in the housework or be supportive of a tough decision in your spouse’s career. Trivial as they may be, these are some of the many things that make up a healthy marriage and a strong relationship which will last for decades to come.

Inject personality into your vows

Your vows should reflect everything about you and hide nothing of your love for your spouse. In other words, your vows should be a mirror to your soul and a reflection about your feelings for your spouse. Ask yourself questions about her looks, his values, her principles or his stand on things. Then, relate to those attributes and celebrate your partner’s existence in your life.

I had always wondered what goes on behind that charming smile of his. At least now, I have the rest of my life to find out.
She was always there in my times of need, and today I stand here with a promise that I will, in turn, always be there for her.

More importantly, here is where your wedding vow stands out from everybody else’s. Show them why she is the only one for you and why you are the only one for her.

Only she can put a rein on my meandering ways and thus, I will have only her as the beacon in my life.
She had many chances to cry before, but I will never let her shed anymore tears as long as I am near.

Everything and anything that makes the both of you special should be in that piece of paper you will be reading from on your wedding day.

Do your homework

It may be hard to get into the romantic mood when you are at your wit’s end in managing all your wedding plans. If this happens, try to refer to the works of literary masters. Take bits and pieces from poems, song lyrics or the wedding vows of your married relatives. Once you get the hang of it, then the words will flow smoothly. Nevertheless, try to keep with the times and not get too classical about it. Wedding vows should be sweet so that everyone who listens to it will enjoy it, and short so that you wouldn’t get the words messed up. If you still find it hard to get started, compare notes with none other than your future spouse. In order for wedding vows to be perfect, you should both work in synchrony. It is more important that the both of you work at the same level and complement each other than to have one’s vows outdo the other’s. However, be careful to avoid using too much of the same words or concepts.

Lastly.. be honest

Nothing shines through more than honesty itself, especially when it comes to promises. Besides, people can sense honesty when they hear it. Therefore, if you want a wedding vow that everyone, including your spouse, will remember, then you should make promises that can stick.

I promise to never give you any reason to be sad, angry or lonely
I know you hope that I will be a wonderful husband but I’m telling you now that I will be a trusting friend, a good partner and a great father.

It is always helpful to end your wedding vow with something funny to help push all those tears out.

I know you hope that I will be a wonderful husband but I’m telling you now that I am hoping to also be a trusting friend, a good partner and a great father.. nothing more.
And lastly, I promise to let you have the remote on anniversaries and not yell at you unless the house is on fire.

After all is said and done, get your wedding vows framed and kept in a safe place. At times when your marriage is facing trouble, it will help to take these wedding vows out for a quick read to rekindle the love that brought the both of you together in the first place.