Bridal Shower Gift Etiquette if you do not plan to attend the Shower


I am invited to two Bridal Showers (one a close friend and another an office colleague) next week but I have summer travel plans with my family. Do I need to send a Bridal Shower Gift if I am not actually attending the showers? I will, however, attend both the weddings later.


Etiquette does not require to send in any gift if you are not actually attending the Bridal shower.

However, if and only if you wish, you can send in a gift in the first case since the Bride is your close friend. You know best how close you are to her and whether you would like to send in a gift even if you are not attending her shower. It might even be something for ‘making up for your absence’ if you are really very close friends.